In the spirit of the New Year, I wanted to talk a little about dreams and goals and the journey of their pursuit. A year or so ago I had very few aspirations (and by very few I mean like probably one – “to get through the day”. That may be a little dramatic, but you get my point). Today I have so many things I want to do, see, live, breathe, and experience. I have big dreams, big desires and big passions. But the fact is the logistics of my life haven’t changed at the same rate as my mindset. I’m still working the same job, still paying the same mortgage, and I still have all the same commitments as before. Sometimes it gets hard to see how I can make it work. How I can hold onto these dreams, when I need both my hands to hold onto my family’s wellbeing, my home, my ‘career’…
I want so much to “throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in (my) sails”…but when you have a family, the decision to do so is no longer yours alone. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, but it’s the reality. I would love to quit my job – love to, but it’s not something I’m prepared to do without having a fairly solid idea of what I would do next.
“Great ideas need landing gear as well as wings.” ~ C.D. Jackson
I’m not a patient person. In most areas of my life I throw myself in head first and play by the motto of "sink or swim". But in matters of the family, I am different. Things need to be planned, considered, weighed up and secured before I will take a plunge. I’ve had to remind myself that delaying a step along the journey towards my dreams, and taking the time to plan my next move doesn’t mean that I’m failing, it just means that I’m increasing the chances of successfully reaching my destination.
“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” ~ Antoine De Saint Exupery
Sometimes we hit hurdles along the way, and if you’re anything like me, impatience can get the better of us. I know in my heart that I haven’t lost sight of my dreams and I know that I will get there, but I get frustrated with the time it takes. I’ve set the wheels in motion, they are turning, but sometimes they just don’t seem to be turning fast enough! It can be hard to accept that progress is still progress even if it is slow.
“No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn't trying.” ~ Tony Robbins
There will be moments along your journey when it all starts to seem too hard. At times, pursuing your dreams can be somewhat underwhelming! This can quickly result in a sense of defeat…and a question as to whether it’s even ‘worth’ doing anymore. It’s super hard to keep going when the result isn’t six weeks into the future. It is perhaps apt to remind ourselves at these points, that it is as much about the evolution and growth of your personal self along the journey to your dreams, as it is the actual realisation of the dream itself. The strength, patience and wisdom that comes from rising: to meet our challenges; to step over those hurdles; and to continue to crawl when you can no longer walk, is just as valuable and life changing.
“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” ~ Zig Ziglar
It takes a real solid, committed effort to keep pushing forward. It’s a daily battle to keep your sub-conscious mind in check. You know, the one that tells you you’re wasting your time, you’re a dreamer, you haven’t got a hope in hell. But you know what? Sarah Ban Breathnach said it best when she said, “The world needs dreamers and the world needs doers. But above all, the world needs dreamers who do.” So keep fighting the fight, keep rising above the negative voices and keep pushing forward with your pursuit. Write things down and read them over and over again. Listen to things that inspire you, take in the daily quotes, focus on what made you start this journey in the first place.
And every morning when you wake, ask yourself this one question:
“How am I going to live today in order to create the tomorrow I'm committed to?” ~Anthony Robbins