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Get Back Your Groove in 6 Easy Steps!

How long has it been since you’ve really felt like you’re in your groove?  Too long?  You can’t remember the last time?    

Rest assured you’re not alone - it happens to all of us at some point!  We lose our way a little, we have no energy, we stop doing the things we enjoy, we’re just going through the motions – in a sense, we flat-line.  Quite often we experience these flat-line periods when we’re overwhelmed or all-consumed by something or someone in our life.  A very common example is in the early years of parenting when quality sleep is a rarity, and we’re emotionally drained from the stress and anxiety that comes with learning on the job as a new parent.

Get back your groove Mama Pyjama

So how do you get back your groove?!  Try these six steps:

We can’t be Groovin’ if we aint Movin’!

Just move!  Sounds so simple right?  Well it isn’t…not when you’re flat-lining...but just take it one step at a time.  Start small and build your way up.  I’m not saying go out and join a gym and bust out a session of Body Attack today (though if you want to, feel free)!  You can incorporate movement and exercise into your day without having to find babysitters or fork out lots of money. 

Turn on a “pick me up” song and get dancing in the living room, or bopping to high volume in the car. (My personal favourites are “On Top of the World”, “Here Comes the Sun”, “Daydream Believer”). 

Walk where you would normally drive. 

Play a game of ‘clean up olympics’ – think pole vault style sweeping, and goal shooting laundry.  You’ll get the job done, you’ll move, and I reckon you won’t be able to help but smile…maybe even laugh (working out those tummy muscles even more) whilst you’re doing it! 

Whichever way you choose to do it, the important thing is getting that blood pumping through your veins again and giving your body a chance to generate some of those awesome natural happy vibes called endorphins that come alive through exercise.

Healthy body – healthy mind

Chances are if you’ve lost your groove, you’ll also be a little (or a lot) run down.  Mums are one of the highest risk groups for adrenal fatigue.  Make sure you address your health as a priority and give your body the support it needs to get through this period of stress.  Vitamins, minerals and lots of water are a really good start.  Address your diet and ensure you’re eating regularly.  Stop chowing down a bag of chips or three choc chip cookies at 2pm because you were so busy making sure the kids were fed and happy that you forgot all about having your own lunch (let alone breakfast)!

Remember, if our body is unhealthy we’ll have a hard time keeping a healthy mind.   

You should also check out our exclusive series of blogs on Adrenal Fatigue and tips on how to reverse it by superstar Naturopath Tara Ross...there's even a free e-book - "Escape from Zombie Land" available on her site for MPJ readers!

Say Yes to Yourself

Want to get back your groove?  You’re going to need time and energy to focus on yourself…not just everyone else.  There’s a great little quote from Paolo Coehlo that says, “When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘no’ to yourself”.  This is one to print out and post on your bathroom mirror. 

Start saying yes to yourself.  This isn’t selfish, this isn’t being a bad parent or friend or partner.  This is part of being a healthy and fulfilled individual…which in effect leads to your ability to be a better mum/partner/friend in the long run! 

It’s all about balance.  Stop over committing yourself, stop saying yes to unreasonable requests from friends and/or family, stop trying to do every.single.thing your child decides they so desperately want to do.  You’re not a machine.  You can’t do EVERYTHING.  You’re a human being.  You have your own needs; and you have as much right as anyone else on the planet to ensure those needs are met.

So take the time you gained from saying no, to saying yes to something that used to make you feel groovy; or to do something entirely new.  Learn something, read something, play something…just do something that reminds you of who you are and what you love. 

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Grateful is Grooveful

The energy we give out is the energy we get back.  When we’re flat-lining, our energy is at an all time low…so giving out positive energy is a tough gig during these times,  BUT it’s a must.   Finding something we are grateful for and expressing that gratitude on a daily basis is an activity that forces our focus to the present moment.  It also activates positive thought, and sends out positive energy which will inevitably find its way back to you.  Start by beginning or ending each day with one thing you are grateful for – journal it, blog it, post it on social media, or make it a part of your dinner time conversation.

Make it about YOU

I think I just felt the collective cringe of the masses in cyberspace reading that line!  Why is it that the idea of making something all about ourselves makes us feel so uncomfortable?  Ok, I’ll soften it a little…what I’m getting at here is that as parents sometimes it seems like our whole entire existence revolves around our children.  Where we go out, what we eat for dinner…right down to the conversations we have with friends and family! 

If you want to get back your groove, you’ve got to shake it up a little.

Make a concerted effort to break up the conversation every now and then and talk about something other than your kids.  Talk about yourself, what you’ve been doing, what you’re thinking about doing, what’s on your bucket list, how you’re feeling today.  It’s a difficult task not to reference all those things back to your children, but resist the urge.  In doing so you remind yourself (on both a conscious and a sub-conscious level) that you’re a person in your own right.  You’ll find that doing so will lead to discovery (or reminder) of the things you enjoy doing and the things that’ll propel you back into your groove.  

Get your groove on from 7pm

Okay, caveat on this one…I totally get how hard it is to establish sleep routines with babies and toddlers.  It can feel virtually impossible…but stick with it.  Try to establish consistent routines, and stay firm with bedtimes.  Kids need sleep.  Quite honestly they need a heck of a lot of it.  Studies indicate that 4 year olds should be getting on average 12-14 hours of sleep a day.  So if you can get them to bed by around 7pm, then you’re doing them a massive favour….and guess what!?

THAT MEANS YOU HAVE A WHOLE LOT OF POTENTIAL “ME TIME” UP YOUR SLEEVE EVERY DAY!

Allocate some of this time to doing things other than chores.  Focus on that hobby.  Spend a little time getting some passion back with your partner.  Have a bath. 

Based on a conservative 9.30pm bedtime, you now have 17.5 HOURS A WEEK… or 910 HOURS A YEAR that you can utilise for getting back your groove! 

So what are you waiting for?  Get groovin’ mamas!

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Reflection

Reflection Mama Pyjama

I was wandering the streets of Fremantle with a bucket of paella in my hand, people-watching, and enjoying the rarity of a morning to myself when I got the call from my Dad that there was a fire in Stoneville.  “That’s about 3 minutes from my house dad…I’m an hour away…I don’t think there’s anything I can do”. 

I got in my car anyway and drove for what seemed forever, listening to the AM radio for updates and trying to get a call through to my neighbours.  My kids were safe, my husband was safe, but my two dogs were locked inside the house.

By the time I got there my street was blocked off and there was smoke everywhere.  Between my husband and I we managed to get hold of our neighbours, who were thankfully (for us) home when the fire hit.  In the seconds they had before leaving, they smashed a window at our place and rescued our dogs.  Two great big (smelly and sometimes perceived as scary) dogs.  That took guts.  That took humanity.  That was an act of pure selflessness, and one I’m eternally grateful for. 

In the hours and days that followed I learned and gained many things.  I witnessed community and humanity at its greatest.  We forged a friendship with our neighbours (albeit several years too late);  I’m quietly kicking myself for not having shared more drinks over the fence with these fun and generous story tellers!  I learned what gratitude truly feels like.  I experienced a feeling of weightlessness when I realised that at no point in the whole drama had I really concerned myself with the idea of losing our house and everything in it.  I was yet again reminded of the strength of the heart strings that link child to parent.  I had no concern other than for the displacement and anxiety that my sons (particularly my eldest) were experiencing, emphasised by the knowledge of just how close we were to having that displacement extend several months if not years if our house had not been spared. 

This was how my 2014 began.  Some would say that’s a terrible start to a year…for me it was the beginning of a year of awareness, gratitude and awakening.   

Here are some key moments from my 2014:

A hospital emergency trip for each of my boys – one via an ambulance.   With these experiences came gratitude for the health care system we have in Australia.  Gratitude for a husband that sat all night in the world’s most uncomfortable chair so that he could be there for his boy every second of the way;  and the second time ‘round for him riding in the ambulance with our 2 year old strapped to his chest, lying flat on his back as our son struggled to breathe. 

Concerts, a trip to Rotto, many an opportunity for fancy dress and other creative experiences.  I am grateful for friendships – some as old as Beverley Hills 90210, and some new.  I’m thankful for people in my life who love me for who I was, who I am and who I am becoming.

My eldest began Kindy and my baby is now a fully-fledged chatterbox.  It really hit home this year how important it is to appreciate what you have at any given moment because children grow so quickly, and the world changes at such a rapid rate.

Time with my husband.  I am grateful for family that have allowed me to spend some quality time with my husband (who FYI has lost 20 kilos this year! Talk about being proud of him!).  We’ve had some nights out in town touring the small bars and enjoying the luxury (and quiet) of a hotel room.  On the relationship front, it’s been a year of communication, reconnection and awareness.

Awakening my spirituality.  2014 has been a spiritual journey (for want of a better expression) for me.  I’ve stepped way out of my comfort zone, and pushed myself to learn more about who I am in order to accept myself fully.  I’ve done yoga nidra, a workshop on mediumship and sound healing.  I also sang in a choir at my workplace and have written my first song.  I’ve been learning more about chakra healing and raising our vibrations.  In short, I feel much more alive this year and I think that comes from allowing myself to look “silly”, to be uncomfortable and to try new and scary things.

Moving house.  We packed up our storybook cottage and moved to a beautiful home on 10 acres.  I’ll be honest and tell you that it was tough on my relationship! Big decisions and events in life are great opportunities to increase your awareness of your own complexities and of those around you – and this was one such opportunity!  The move has been worth every second of…let’s call it head butting and snappiness.  Our home is very quickly becoming our sanctuary and I am so grateful.

Bruce.  Springsteen.  Held.  My.  Hand.     Enough said.

Refocusing my career.  Those of you who have been following for a while now will have gotten a sense that I’m not entirely content within my current career.  I’ve been working hard this year to refocus and redirect my career down a path that better aligns with who I am (and who I continue to become).  As 2014 draws to a close I await two decisions – one for a new role that I applied for at work in a much more creative and innovative space, the other for a blogging opportunity with Brownes Dairy.  To say I’m excited about the opportunities that await me is an understatement.

And then there’s Mama Pyjama.  In between all this I’ve been talking to you guys, sharing a bit of my life with you, learning a little more about all of your’s in the process, and working with some really cool companies.  I got to interview a Disney Star…I mean seriously, less than two years ago I would have never envisaged that.  It’s been a blast.

I do so hope that you have also had a fantastic 2014…even if it involved some trials and tribulations.  Afterall it is often adversity that is our greatest motivator.  Every event in our life offers its own unique teaching or opportunity.  It is up to us to uncover it, to listen to it, to accept it and to act on it. 

I look forward to painting my future with all of you in it.  Remember, if we believe it to be true, it is true.  If we believe it to be real, it is real. 

So get imagining the future you want to see yourself in ‘cause I’ll be asking you very soon to share it with me (and the universe). 

Many blessings, and may your 2015 be truly wonderful! xo